This post is for all my ladies who have ever been stood up, cheated on, etc. I want you to know that YOU are worth more than that and you have to continue to tell yourself that.
Let me begin by saying that this Friday I was supposed to go on a date with this one guy {who I will leave nameless to spare his potential future with a gal}. This guy was supposed to be 6’4, handsome, blue eyed, brown haired, and at a restaurant with me on Friday night… If you haven't guessed it quite yet, he stood me up.
He knew how to talk his talk, and I am sure it’s worked in the past for him. NOT. WITH. ME.
His VERY FIRST words to me were “You are so attractive. We have to go out soon.” Over a week in advance, he planned on having this “said date” with me which included drinks and dinner. Why not for a week week, you may ask? Well, he had a trip with his buddies SO he claimed he wanted to see me RIGHT when he returned.
My advice to you is to forget about these a**holes!! They are not worth your time AT ALL. Honestly, we should be thanking them instead because they are making us THAT much stronger and pointing out the characteristics we DON’T want in a man.
I can’t say that I dated much in college. Actually, I can’t really say I dated at all because nothing was ever “official,” BUT I did attempt a long distance fling with a guy in San Diego for about a year and then again attempted a long distance fling with a guy in London for about two months when I was in Spain.
NO — When I say that I want to move to London and visit London again and blah blah blah, it is NOT because of the guy I met. Yes we are still friends, but that kind of distance is unrealistic to me because I know that I ultimately want to end up in California. He is happily back together with his ex and I couldn't be happier for him. He was a sweet one {and quite the catch}, so he deserves nothing but happiness. This post is not about London boy.
Now, if you're one of my close friends, you are obviously fully aware of this said “San Diego beach boy.”
Yes — I fell in love with him.
Yes — We are still friends to this day and still continue to speak on good terms.
Timing just wasn't right for the both of us, being that we were both in college. I was only a sophomore and had so much more maturing to do, and I think as a junior so did he. This post is not about San Diego boy either.
Also if you know me you would know that I am super picky, so I don't just give ANYBODY a chance but this summer the woman I nanny for has been on a mission to find a guy to somehow sweep me off of my feet and persuade me to stay in Texas.
Don’t worry mom, she's had no luck so far {lol}.
If anything, from all the “dating experience” I have had within the past three months, it is making me realize how fortunate I have been in the past {in regard to the guys I have actually chosen to pursue}.
I have experienced some SUPER DUPER STRANGE things this summer. Some guy whipping out a box of sex toys {also apparently was so kind to pick me up from my house drunk and drive us}, some guy inviting himself to my place following dinner and immediately getting into my bed {no thank you, you may leave} and then continuously asking me to see him, two guys who stood me up, and the list goes on. If you wanna hear about more tragedies, just reach out to me. I guarantee you that I could make your day a lot better if you're feeling down in the dumps.
I want to be the one to point out that those guys are a waste of your time. If you wanna be nice and give them a second chance, then be my guest… I’ve attempted giving a second and third chance with some guy this summer and I promise they don't change. No matter what you tell yourself, YOU WILL NOT CHANGE THAT GUY!!
If a guy wants to be with you and see you, he will in fact do so. He will not make excuses. He will text you. He will do anything he can to make time to be with you. I was listening to a podcast the other week that was literally talking about the same thing {and I should've known it was foreshadowing my week} and it said “excuses are like a**holes, everybody has them.”
The guy’s excuse that was supposed to take me on a date on Friday? “Omg! I saw your message and forgot to reply. I am so sorry!”
If he ACTUALLY wanted to see me, he wouldn’t have “forgotten.”
Truly, I am so happy he did “forget” though. I had a night to myself where I got to FaceTime my pups back in California, I got to do a face mask {I’ll post my beauty regime soon}, I got to attempt making chia seed pudding {which was a failure at first but I finally nailed it}, I got to do all my laundry, I got to read. I focused on myself, and although I thought that something was wrong with me that caused him to stand me up, I realized something was wrong with HIM.
Ladies, the right one will come around and you will know when he does. Don't let idiots put a damper on your day and // or night. You are worthy of finding the right guy. Don’t rush things. Patience is a virtue.
Just know that you are not the only one getting stood up {or cheated on or backstabbed} by a man. There are PLENTY of other people who have experienced the same thing. Keep your head held high and know that you are WAYYYYY better than that. Those a**holes aren't worth your time anyways.
xoxo V
For some extra motivation // words of wisdom I have decided to include on of my FAVORITE quotes by Ruby Dhal:
