TODAY. IS. THE. DAY.
I finally get to pick up the key to my new apartment and I am officially moving in TOMORROW!! It’s located in one of the “up and coming” areas of Fort Worth and I am SOOOOO freakin excited!! If you know where West 7th is, you know where to find me.
So, earlier this week {July 25th}, was my parent’s 31ST ANNIVERSARY and I am —
☆ Not only fortunate that my parents have shown me the type of friendship, relationship, and love I aspire to have one day, but
☆ Instead of having a weekend to themselves in a nice place with dinner and massages {and whatever else couples do these days}, my mama flew to 112º heat to load boxes in and out of moving trucks and to push furniture around my new place
After wishing both of my parents 31 years of happiness, I asked them both what their TOP THREE secrets to living their happy and healthy marriage was and how to maintain an exciting relationship… Here, I thought I would share with y’all because love should be everlasting.
Secrets to living a happy and healthy life with your significant other:
☆ Trust {mama}
☆ Respect {dad}
☆ Somebody who makes you laugh {mama}
☆ Trust {dad}
☆ Spend time with each other and actually do things together… Share a common interest and do those things together {mama}
☆ Generally shared goals and morals {dad}
Secrets to maintaining a spunky relationship:
☆ Make time for just the two of you {dad}
☆ Have date nights at least once a week {mama}
☆ Go somewhere or do something very different at least once a year {dad}
☆ It’s important to do the little things for each other… Like slipping a note in luggage, sending flowers, doing each others laundry and folding it {mama}
☆ Don’t get complacent with each other {dad}
☆ Think of your partner before you think of yourself… Think about what is good for the BOTH of us {mama}
Now — I know you guys have heard A LOT about my mama, BUT she is making her way out to Texas, just to help me clean, move, and decorate my place, so be prepared for lots of Snapchat videos and Insta g stories with her in them. Also, if you haven't seen my room {which my mom says “doesn’t go at all” because it’s a mix of boho and beachy}, be prepared for blues and whites to be the majority of my place.
I also promise to post some photos and // or a vlog of the move soon, and by soon I mean as soon as I finish unpacking everything {I want my place to look perfect before I show y’all}.
Also, for those of you who follow me on Instagram, you already know this BUT I figured I would share this quick {and pretty dang funny story}… This week, I got locked out of my own house. Now I want to be clear, because I know during the school year, a couple of my roommates had been locked out but there was always a simple solution.
To paint a picture — I lived in a duplex with a shared wall. There were five of us on one side and five more on the other. We were never close with our neighbors, as during the school year there would always be an exchange of passive aggressive notes left for each other about parking issues BUT thats beside the point.
During the year, there were five of us… During the summer {aka now}, one moved back to Chicago, one lives with her husband downtown, one moved to LA for grad school, and one moved to Houston with her boyfriend and their new puppy. That being said, it was JUST ME!! So, now lets get to the point. Tuesday {National Tequila Day} after work, I met with one of my friends at a restaurant for drinks and dinner and when I got home I parked my car in the front drive way and then went inside to take the trash out from the back. With my mind set on taking out the trash, I THOUGHT I would leave the front door unlocked, drop my purse in the house, go out the back door and lock it from the inside, walk the trash bins from the back to the front, and enter back in the front door.
Yup — I guess I didn't leave the front door unlocked because it’s my natural instinct to lock it upon walking in the door.
For about 20 minutes {of having no phone, no keys, no wallet, no nothing}, I walked around the house checking all the windows hoping one would be unlocked so I could climb into my house. Then, with no communication, I figured it may be best to scheme what window I would break {that would cost the least amount} for me to break in.
No, I didn't end up doing that BUT I did end up becoming friends with my neighbors and hung out with them for an hour until one decided to try to find a way to get in. Now, I’m not going to tell you how cause it’s kinda scary how easily she got in my house BUT I was able to finally get in my house… Shoutout to Evyn for breaking into my house!! I owe you a bottle of champagne if you're reading this.
Also… If y'all made it this far in my post, now we’re going to get freaky with it.
Let’s talk online dating.
To be clear, the ONLY “online” dating platform I’m on is Bumble and even then I just mainly go on to check out in the area because personally, I’m not the kinda person to make the first move. If you know me, you’d know how true that statement is… ALSO, it’s VERY rare that I even match with people because I am so freakin picky. Don’t get me wrong though, I have been on TWO Bumble dates.
For those of you who don't know what Bumble is, it’s an application on one’s phone that gives singles {and also apparently married people AND swingers} to create a profile that includes six photos, a bio, one’s job, and one’s school. The majority of people obviously base their right and left swipes on looks, as that is the primary focus of the app; however, the catch is the girl has to make “the move” and message the guy first. If two people match and a conversation is not started within 24 hours, the connection is lost forever {clarification for the old souls reading this}.
For me, I won’t lie and say that the photo is the first thing I notice BUTTTTTT even if a guy is cute, if he doesn't have a good education or job, I WILL swipe left.
NOW — My main point of bringing this whole online dating thing is to primarily to tell everyone to just be careful who you end up talking to. I know people on this app from ages like 16 to 56, and the horror stories are unbelievable. There have been men on there {and I’m sure women too} that are married and wanting some action. There are also of course the catfish {people who pretend they’re somebody they’re not}, the random swingers, AND there are some normal people.
Also, I just think it’s pretty dang funny what guy’s use as their photos. Correct me if I’m wrong BUTTTTTT, you have:
☆ Blurry up the nose pic
☆ The “bros” pic in which typically the hot one isn't the guy you're swiping for BUT they use it as “swipe-bait”
☆ Puppies!! Every guy knows a girl is a sucker for a furry friend, so they use their dog in hopes of getting a swipe
☆ The mirror selfie… Honestly, one of my personal favs because of how awk it is
Anyways, if anybody has some funny online dating stories or just wants to talk about relationships {or anything else really}, just reach out!!
Stay tuned for some fun videos and // or pictures of my new apartment and if you want real time updates on the whole process, gimme a follow on Insta g {@victoriadoder} and // or Snapchat {@victoriadoder} and I will be keeping you all posted!!
xoxo V
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